Talking about sexuality: when, how, and why? 

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To better understand

Sexuality encompasses much more than just our genital organs and reproductive systems. Sexuality also relates to feelings and sensations, one’s relationship with one’s own body, identity, affection, intimate relations with a special person, social norms, culture, etc.

Young people spend their teen years exploring all of these aspects, each at their own pace and to varying degrees. For this reason, sexuality is often an issue that is top of mind for teenagers, not to mention for their parents as well.

As a parent, you want your teen to feel comfortable and take pleasure in exploring their sexuality, free from any health risks, negative influences (pressure, sense of obligation, threats), discrimination, or violence (physical, psychological, or sexual). Whether or not your teen is sexually active, it is important to guide them and give them the tools they need, based on their stage of development and experience.

Sexuality and teens in the Montérégie region

  • 3 % of students aged 14 and over question their sexual orientation.
  • One-third of students aged 14 and over have had consensual sex(oral, vaginal, or anal) with a partner. By grade 11, half of all high school students have had consensual sex with a partner.
  • Most teens have sex for the first time around age 16.

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Check out our information sheets for more statistics, key facts, and solutions for families, schools, and communities.

To better support

Your teen may not tell you everything about their sexuality, and you may not feel comfortable talking about it. Just be aware that the more positive conversations about sexuality you have with your teen, the more likely they are to confide in you!

In short

  • Adolescence is a key time for exploring the different aspects of sexuality, which each person does at their own pace and to varying degrees;
  • You can foster healthy sexuality in your teenager by supporting them and respecting their boundaries;
  • The more positive conversations about sexuality you have with your teen, the more likely they are to confide in you!

Practical resources and tools

1. To support you:


Are you dealing with a situation that worries you? Ask for help:

2. For more information :

  • Transformations, Butterflies, Passions… and All Sorts of Questions (MSSS) – PDF document
  • Mosaik, capsule 4: Getting involved in your child’s sex education: you can do it! – PDF document
  • Tel-Jeune Ligne Parents issue on sexuality
  • Sex & U, a web sexual health resource by The Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada

If you fear for your teen’s or your own safety, call 911 or your local police department.

The police service can also be a useful resource, particularly for the prevention of street gangs, violence, bullying, delinquency, and other offenses.

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