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My teen is using substances: how to talk about it and when to be concerned?

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Even though selling alcohol and other drugs to minors is illegal, teens may still encounter opportunities to try them. They’re also frequently exposed to alcohol use, even when they’re underage. Teens need to know the risks involved. Having open, honest conversations about these substances can help them make informed choices.

As a parent, you are your child’s first role model! The way you talk about or use alcohol and other drugs leaves a lasting impression on your teen and can influence their decisions.

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  • Choose the right time to have a conversation, when both you and your teen are calm and open to listening. If you’re upset or anxious, hold off on the discussion. PAS use is a sensitive topic, and it’s normal to have strong reactions. To help you prepare, watch this video for parents.
  • Talk to your teen about why they might be interested in using substances or why they already do. Ask them what need the substance fulfills. Encourage your teen to share their views on alcohol and other drugs.
  • Help your teen explore their passions and goals, which could reduce the likelihood of substance use.
  • Guide your teen toward healthy ways to relax and have fun without alcohol or other drugs. For ideas, check out our fact sheet on stress and anxiety.
  • Encourage your teen to postpone trying substances as long as possible, and explain why you prefer they avoid them altogether.
  • If your teen decides to experiment, emphasize these essential safety rules:
    • Never use substances alone—always stay with at least one other person
    • Never drive after using
    • Never get into a car with a driver who has consumed substances
    • Avoid mixing substances
    • Know their limits and stay within them
    • Keep you informed of their whereabouts
  • Arrange alternative transportation if their designated driver has used substances. You can also offer to pick them up.
  • Restrict access to alcohol, other drugs, and medications at home by keeping them out of sight and out of reach.
  • Take the opportunity to think about your own substance use. Consider any improvements you could make to your own health. Remember, you are your teen’s first role model!

The importance of consent and saying no

  • Remind your teen that no one is obligated to use substances. Talk about ways to refuse while acknowledging that peer pressure can make it tough. Help them feel confident in their choices in various situations. Let them know you are available if they need support.
  • Talk to your teen about sexual health, focusing on sexual desire, consent, and protection. Substance use can impair judgment, making it harder to give informed consent. Make it clear that consent must be given for each sexual activity and can be withdrawn at any time. It’s important to always make sure the other person wants it too.
  • Throughout the Montérégie region, there are organizations that specialize in addiction prevention. Contact your local support services for guidance.

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This fact sheet was created in collaboration with the Satellite and Liberté de choisir addiction prevention organizations.

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