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Every parent wants their child to become independent. Is there any greater feeling than seeing your preteen take initiative or do their chores without having to be reminded a thousand times? But what’s considered “normal” or expected for a 9-to-12-year-old? As a parent, how can you support them?
Developing independence
- Managing emotions;
- Solving problems;
- Having positive relationships with others.
Between the ages of 9 and 12, children become increasingly independent. For example, they can:
- Make their bed and tidy their room;
- Load and unload the dishwasher;
- Cook simple meals;
- Organize their school bag and do their homework;
- Brush their teeth, wash their body and hair;
- Plan their free time;
- Begin to express their emotions and needs.
If your child isn’t yet doing all this, don’t worry! Every child is unique and will develop their independence at their own pace. Their interests, strengths and maturity level will affect how their independence develops.
Ways to encourage your child’s independence
Practical resources and tools
1. For support :
You are dealing with a situation that worries you? Ask for help :
Community organizations: family centre, youth centre, etc.
Some community organizations offer support programs for parents of teenagers. Call your local organization for information.
School staff members
This info sheet has been written in collaboration with :
Geneviève Dumas, agente de relations humaines, Direction de la santé publique de la Montérégie, Centre de santé et de services sociaux de la Montérégie.
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