{"id":3220,"date":"2026-04-27T16:03:26","date_gmt":"2026-04-27T20:03:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/enmodeado.ca\/?post_type=boite-a-outils&#038;p=3220"},"modified":"2026-04-29T13:20:58","modified_gmt":"2026-04-29T17:20:58","slug":"independence-in-children","status":"publish","type":"boite-a-outils","link":"https:\/\/enmodeado.ca\/en\/boite-a-outils\/independence-in-children\/","title":{"rendered":"Maintaining a positive relationship with your preteen and setting limits: Is it possible?"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-top\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n<section class=\"container-eklo add-table-content container-padding-4em\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"container\">\r\n                <div class=\"container-eklo-content eklo-deco\" >\r\n            <div class=\"acf-innerblocks-container\">\n<div class=\"highlight-box box-style-default\">\r\n    <div class=\"row align-items-center\">\r\n        <div class=\"col\">\r\n            <div class=\"acf-innerblocks-container\">\n\r\n<h2 class=\"title-icon h2\">\r\n    <span class=\"title-icon-icon\">\r\n       <i class=\"fa-classic fa-regular fa-thumbtack\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i>    <\/span>\r\n    In this sheet<\/h2>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Does your preteen seem to think other people\u2019s opinions matter more than yours?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is their behaviour changing?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Are they pushing back against rules that they never questioned before?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Are you worried your relationship is suffering?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This fact sheet contains answers and ideas.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n\n<\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n\r\n<\/section>\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-bottom\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n\n\n\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-top container-bg-color-white\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n<section class=\"container-eklo add-table-content has-background has-white-background-color container-padding-4em\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"container\">\r\n                <div class=\"container-eklo-content eklo-deco\" >\r\n            <div class=\"acf-innerblocks-container\">\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong><strong><strong><strong>The preteen years: different needs<\/strong><\/strong><\/strong><\/strong><\/h2>\n\n<\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n\r\n<\/section>\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-bottom container-bg-color-white\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n\n\n\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-top container-bg-color-white\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n<section class=\"container-eklo add-table-content has-background has-white-background-color container-padding-4em\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"container\">\r\n                <div class=\"container-eklo-content eklo-deco\" >\r\n            <div class=\"acf-innerblocks-container\">\n\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color has-lg-font-size wp-elements-1ee2b510a5c2778ee1a4c326668e63f9\"><strong>As your child enters the preteen years, they may start to develop new behaviours such as:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Testing house rules and your limits;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Having mood swings (for example, being more irritable);<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Being influenced: by friends, family, teachers, social media, etc.;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Boldly expressing their opinions, some of which can be unsettling.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n\r\n<\/section>\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-bottom container-bg-color-white\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n\n\n\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-top container-bg-color-secondary wp-elements-6f94733da77ad21c094aff443ed3915f\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n<section class=\"container-eklo add-table-content has-background has-secondary-background-color has-text-color has-white-color wp-elements-6f94733da77ad21c094aff443ed3915f container-padding-4em\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"container\">\r\n                <div class=\"container-eklo-content eklo-deco\" >\r\n            <div class=\"acf-innerblocks-container\">\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-9d6595d7 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color has-lg-font-size wp-elements-a9fbadcecfd06f610328be8313db7f9e\"><strong>Why are they doing this?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>During the preteen years, children develop new needs:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>They want to make more decisions.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>They want to do things their own way;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Friends are starting to become more important;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>They care more about what others think of them;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Their bodies are changing.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>They start comparing themselves to others.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>They start searching for their identity.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color has-lg-font-size wp-elements-881c3a1695f874615fa9db233cef2498\"><strong>Your challenges?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Adapting to your child\u2019s new needs;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Being open to their arguments, which may be valid even if you hadn\u2019t considered them before;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Maintaining a positive relationship despite arguments or disagreements;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Providing guidance while giving them room to grow.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n<\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n\r\n<\/section>\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-bottom container-bg-color-secondary\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n\n\n\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-top container-bg-color-white\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n<section class=\"container-eklo add-table-content has-background has-white-background-color container-padding-4em\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"container\">\r\n                <div class=\"container-eklo-content eklo-deco\" >\r\n            <div class=\"acf-innerblocks-container\">\n<div class=\"highlight-box box-style-orange\">\r\n    <div class=\"row align-items-center\">\r\n        <div class=\"col\">\r\n            <div class=\"acf-innerblocks-container\">\n\n<p class=\"has-lg-font-size\">Preteens\u2019 choices are often based on immediate gratification and wanting to feel accepted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They don\u2019t always think about the consequences of their choices. <strong>Your presence in their life is essential!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n<\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n\n<\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n\r\n<\/section>\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-bottom container-bg-color-white\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n\n\n\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-top\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n<section class=\"container-eklo add-table-content container-padding-4em\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"container\">\r\n                <div class=\"contrainer-title\" data-aos=\"fade-left\">\r\n            <h2>Guidance: still important to preteens<\/h2>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n                <div class=\"container-eklo-content eklo-deco\" >\r\n            <div class=\"acf-innerblocks-container\">\n\r\n<div class=\"accordions-block\">\r\n        \n<div class=\"accordion\" data-aos=\"fade-up\">\r\n    <h3 class=\"accordion-title\">\r\n        <a class=\"accordion-link\" role=\"button\" href=\"#panel-rules-are-essential-at-this-age-699\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"panel-rules-are-essential-at-this-age-699\">\r\n            <i class=\"fa-classic fa-regular fa-circle-info fa-xl\"><\/i>Rules are essential at this age.        <\/a>\r\n    <\/h3>\r\n    <div class=\"accordion-panel\" id=\"panel-rules-are-essential-at-this-age-699\" style=\"display: none;\">\r\n        \n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>They help establish routines. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>They\u2019re also reassuring\u2014even if your child is likely to push back!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\r\n    <\/div>\r\n<\/div>\n\r\n<\/div>\n\n\r\n<div class=\"accordions-block\">\r\n        \n<div class=\"accordion\" data-aos=\"fade-up\">\r\n    <h3 class=\"accordion-title\">\r\n        <a class=\"accordion-link\" role=\"button\" href=\"#panel-its-your-job-as-the-parent-to-set-the-rules-345\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"panel-its-your-job-as-the-parent-to-set-the-rules-345\">\r\n            <i class=\"fa-classic fa-regular fa-circle-info fa-xl\"><\/i>It\u2019s your job as the parent to set the rules.        <\/a>\r\n    <\/h3>\r\n    <div class=\"accordion-panel\" id=\"panel-its-your-job-as-the-parent-to-set-the-rules-345\" style=\"display: none;\">\r\n        \n\n<p>Here are some examples of rules:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Bedtime and curfew;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Homework;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Screen time: where and when screens are allowed. For ideas, <a href=\"https:\/\/enmodeado.ca\/en\/boite-a-outils\/screens-not-just-any-other-toy\/\" type=\"boite-a-outils\" id=\"3190\">see our webpage<\/a>.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Hygiene routines, like brushing teeth, bathing, and changing clothes;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Age and conditions for staying home alone;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Activities and outings without adults, like biking, going to the park, or walking to school.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\r\n    <\/div>\r\n<\/div>\n\r\n<\/div>\n\n\r\n<div class=\"accordions-block\">\r\n        \n<div class=\"accordion\" data-aos=\"fade-up\">\r\n    <h3 class=\"accordion-title\">\r\n        <a class=\"accordion-link\" role=\"button\" href=\"#panel-its-also-your-job-to-make-final-decisions-about-your-childs-requests-975\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"panel-its-also-your-job-to-make-final-decisions-about-your-childs-requests-975\">\r\n            <i class=\"fa-classic fa-regular fa-circle-info fa-xl\"><\/i>It\u2019s also your job to make final decisions about your child\u2019s requests.        <\/a>\r\n    <\/h3>\r\n    <div class=\"accordion-panel\" id=\"panel-its-also-your-job-to-make-final-decisions-about-your-childs-requests-975\" style=\"display: none;\">\r\n        \n\n<p>For example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Your preteen wants to sleep over at a friend\u2019s house, whom you don\u2019t know;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Your preteen wants to wear makeup to school;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Your preteen wants a cell phone.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>You might hear your child argue that \u201ceveryone else is allowed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They might also say things like \u201cYou never let me do anything\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re a bad parent.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How should you respond to this?<\/p>\n\n\r\n    <\/div>\r\n<\/div>\n\r\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n\r\n<\/section>\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-bottom\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n\n\n\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-top container-bg-color-white\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n<section class=\"container-eklo add-table-content has-background has-white-background-color container-padding-4em\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"container\">\r\n                <div class=\"container-eklo-content eklo-deco\" >\r\n            <div class=\"acf-innerblocks-container\">\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong><strong>Be there for my preteen<\/strong><\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1321\" height=\"579\" src=\"https:\/\/enmodeado.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/5C-eng.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-3268\" srcset=\"https:\/\/enmodeado.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/5C-eng.png 1321w, https:\/\/enmodeado.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/5C-eng-1024x449.png 1024w, https:\/\/enmodeado.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/5C-eng-768x337.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1321px) 100vw, 1321px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Preteens are able to understand other people\u2019s points of view.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s how they begin developing responsibility and the ability to think about the consequences of their actions.<strong><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>How to make decisions<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n<div class=\"grid-icon-cards grid-icon-cards-bg-color-blue\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"row justify-content-center\">\r\n        \r\n            \r\n        <div class=\"col-12 col-md-4 col-lg-4\">\r\n            <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card h-100 has-background has-blue-background-color\" >\r\n                <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card-animation h-100\" data-aos=\"fade-up\" data-aos-delay=\"100\" data-aos-offset=\"200\">\r\n\r\n                    <div class=\"media-card\">\r\n                                            <\/div>\r\n\r\n                                            <div class=\"card-content align-items-start\">\r\n                            <p>Talk to the other parent about what\u2019s important to each of you. Agree on what\u2019s acceptable and what\u2019s not.<\/p>\n                        <\/div>\r\n                    \r\n                                    <\/div>\r\n            <\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n\r\n        \r\n        \r\n            \r\n        <div class=\"col-12 col-md-4 col-lg-4\">\r\n            <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card h-100 has-background has-blue-background-color\" >\r\n                <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card-animation h-100\" data-aos=\"fade-up\" data-aos-delay=\"200\" data-aos-offset=\"200\">\r\n\r\n                    <div class=\"media-card\">\r\n                                            <\/div>\r\n\r\n                                            <div class=\"card-content align-items-start\">\r\n                            <p>Listen to your preteen without judging: Show them you\u2019re taking their request seriously.<\/p>\n                        <\/div>\r\n                    \r\n                                    <\/div>\r\n            <\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n\r\n        \r\n        \r\n            \r\n        <div class=\"col-12 col-md-4 col-lg-4\">\r\n            <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card h-100 has-background has-blue-background-color\" >\r\n                <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card-animation h-100\" data-aos=\"fade-up\" data-aos-delay=\"300\" data-aos-offset=\"200\">\r\n\r\n                    <div class=\"media-card\">\r\n                                            <\/div>\r\n\r\n                                            <div class=\"card-content align-items-start\">\r\n                            <p>Explain your point of view and your concerns.<\/p>\n                        <\/div>\r\n                    \r\n                                    <\/div>\r\n            <\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n\r\n        \r\n            <\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n\r\n\n\n\n<p><a id=\"_msocom_1\"><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"grid-icon-cards grid-icon-cards-bg-color-blue\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"row justify-content-center\">\r\n        \r\n            \r\n        <div class=\"col-12 col-md-4 col-lg-4\">\r\n            <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card h-100 has-background has-blue-background-color\" >\r\n                <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card-animation h-100\" data-aos=\"fade-up\" data-aos-delay=\"100\" data-aos-offset=\"200\">\r\n\r\n                    <div class=\"media-card\">\r\n                                            <\/div>\r\n\r\n                                            <div class=\"card-content align-items-start\">\r\n                            <p>Ask questions to better understand what your child wants:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Why is this important to them?<\/li>\n<li>What are their arguments?<\/li>\n<li>What do they think might make you feel less worried?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n                        <\/div>\r\n                    \r\n                                    <\/div>\r\n            <\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n\r\n        \r\n            <\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n\r\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"grid-icon-cards grid-icon-cards-bg-color-blue\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"row justify-content-center\">\r\n        \r\n            \r\n        <div class=\"col-12 col-md-4 col-lg-4\">\r\n            <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card h-100 has-background has-blue-background-color\" >\r\n                <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card-animation h-100\" data-aos=\"fade-up\" data-aos-delay=\"100\" data-aos-offset=\"200\">\r\n\r\n                    <div class=\"media-card\">\r\n                                            <\/div>\r\n\r\n                                            <div class=\"card-content align-items-start\">\r\n                            <p>If your preteen\u2019s point of view seems reasonable, then consider it. You can also suggest a compromise, based on what\u2019s important to both parents.<\/p>\n                        <\/div>\r\n                    \r\n                                    <\/div>\r\n            <\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n\r\n        \r\n        \r\n            \r\n        <div class=\"col-12 col-md-4 col-lg-4\">\r\n            <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card h-100 has-background has-blue-background-color\" >\r\n                <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card-animation h-100\" data-aos=\"fade-up\" data-aos-delay=\"200\" data-aos-offset=\"200\">\r\n\r\n                    <div class=\"media-card\">\r\n                                            <\/div>\r\n\r\n                                            <div class=\"card-content align-items-start\">\r\n                            <p>If your decision isn\u2019t what your child hoped for, explain your reasons.<\/p>\n                        <\/div>\r\n                    \r\n                                    <\/div>\r\n            <\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n\r\n        \r\n        \r\n            \r\n        <div class=\"col-12 col-md-4 col-lg-4\">\r\n            <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card h-100 has-background has-blue-background-color\" >\r\n                <div class=\"grid-icon-cards-card-animation h-100\" data-aos=\"fade-up\" data-aos-delay=\"300\" data-aos-offset=\"200\">\r\n\r\n                    <div class=\"media-card\">\r\n                                            <\/div>\r\n\r\n                                            <div class=\"card-content align-items-start\">\r\n                            <p>If your child reacts badly, stand your ground and maintain a united front. Even if it\u2019s hard, your job is to set limits. Let them know you understand their feelings: disappointment, anger, etc.<\/p>\n                        <\/div>\r\n                    \r\n                                    <\/div>\r\n            <\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n\r\n        \r\n            <\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n\r\n\n<\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n\r\n<\/section>\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-bottom container-bg-color-white\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n\n\n\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-top\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n<section class=\"container-eklo add-table-content container-padding-4em\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"container\">\r\n                <div class=\"container-eklo-content eklo-deco\" >\r\n            <div class=\"acf-innerblocks-container\">\n\r\n<div class=\"accordions-block\">\r\n        \n<div class=\"accordion\" data-aos=\"fade-up\">\r\n    <h3 class=\"accordion-title\">\r\n        <a class=\"accordion-link\" role=\"button\" href=\"#panel-choose-logical-consequences-714\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"panel-choose-logical-consequences-714\">\r\n            <i class=\"fa-classic fa-regular fa-circle-info fa-xl\"><\/i>Choose logical consequences        <\/a>\r\n    <\/h3>\r\n    <div class=\"accordion-panel\" id=\"panel-choose-logical-consequences-714\" style=\"display: none;\">\r\n        \n\n<p class=\"accordion-content\">Having consequences encourages preteens to think about their actions. Punishments only create fear. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"accordion-content\"><strong>Consequences are often more effective than punishments<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table is-style-regular\"><table class=\"has-primary-color has-gray-light-background-color has-text-color has-background has-link-color has-fixed-layout\"><tbody><tr><td><strong>A consequence is the logical result of unwanted behaviour.<br>Consequences should be associated with the behaviour and explained to the child.<\/strong><\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are some examples of consequences:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Your child didn&#8217;t clean their room <\/em>\u25b6\u25b6\u25b6 <em>Cut shor<\/em>t one of their activities to give them time to tidy up<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Your child was direspectful to someone <\/em>\u25b6\u25b6\u25b6 Ask them to &#8220;make it right&#8221;, for example, by doing a chore or a favour for the person<em>.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\r\n    <\/div>\r\n<\/div>\n\r\n<\/div>\n\n\r\n<div class=\"accordions-block\">\r\n        \n<div class=\"accordion\" data-aos=\"fade-up\">\r\n    <h3 class=\"accordion-title\">\r\n        <a class=\"accordion-link\" role=\"button\" href=\"#panel-take-a-deep-breath-and-a-step-back-443\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"panel-take-a-deep-breath-and-a-step-back-443\">\r\n            <i class=\"fa-classic fa-regular fa-circle-info fa-xl\"><\/i>Take a deep breath and a step back        <\/a>\r\n    <\/h3>\r\n    <div class=\"accordion-panel\" id=\"panel-take-a-deep-breath-and-a-step-back-443\" style=\"display: none;\">\r\n        \n\n<p>Every parent can feel overwhelmed at times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Are you too angry or exhausted to stay calm?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Are you worried you might say something you\u2019ll regret?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Tell your preteen you\u2019ll talk later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Admit when you\u2019re wrong, for example, if you made a mistake or raised your voice.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This sets a good example!<\/p>\n\n\r\n    <\/div>\r\n<\/div>\n\r\n<\/div>\n\n\r\n<div class=\"accordions-block\">\r\n        \n<div class=\"accordion\" data-aos=\"fade-up\">\r\n    <h3 class=\"accordion-title\">\r\n        <a class=\"accordion-link\" role=\"button\" href=\"#panel-have-fun-as-a-family-332\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"panel-have-fun-as-a-family-332\">\r\n            <i class=\"fa-classic fa-regular fa-circle-info fa-xl\"><\/i>Have fun as a family        <\/a>\r\n    <\/h3>\r\n    <div class=\"accordion-panel\" id=\"panel-have-fun-as-a-family-332\" style=\"display: none;\">\r\n        \n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You should have more fun moments than negative ones with your preteen. Once an issue is resolved, don\u2019t bring it up again.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Do fun things together: popcorn and movie nights, board games, outdoor activities, special meals, or just relaxing and catching up. What matters most is that everyone has fun!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\r\n    <\/div>\r\n<\/div>\n\r\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n\r\n<\/section>\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-bottom\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n\n\n\r\n    <div class=\"container-deco deco-top container-bg-color-white\">\r\n            <\/div>\r\n<section class=\"container-eklo add-table-content has-background has-white-background-color container-padding-4em\">\r\n\r\n    <div class=\"container\">\r\n                <div class=\"container-eklo-content eklo-deco\" >\r\n            <div class=\"acf-innerblocks-container\">\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Practical resources and tools<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. For support&nbsp;:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>You are dealing with a situation that worries you? Ask for help :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list is-style-info-icon\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.quebec.ca\/sante\/trouver-une-ressource\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Info-Sant\u00e9\/Info-Social 811<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.teljeunes.com\/fr\/parents\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Tel-Jeunes Parents<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/santemonteregie.qc.ca\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">CLSC<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Community organizations: family centre, youth centre, etc.<\/strong><br>Some community organizations offer support programs for parents of teenagers. Call your local organization for information.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><strong>School staff members<\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. References<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>CIUSSS de la Capitale-Nationale. (s.d.). <em>\u00c9tablir des r\u00e8gles efficaces<\/em>. Programme Triple P.<br><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ciusss-capitalenationale.gouv.qc.ca\/triplep\/conseils\/generaux\/regles\">https:\/\/www.ciusss-capitalenationale.gouv.qc.ca\/triplep\/conseils\/generaux\/regles<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>CIUSSS de l\u2019Estrie \u2013 CHUS. (s.d.). <em>Circuit parents 5\u201311 ans \u2013 Th\u00e8me 4 : L\u2019encadrement parental<\/em>.<br><a href=\"https:\/\/www.santeestrie.qc.ca\/soins-services\/theme\/famille-parents-et-enfants\/ressources-pour-les-familles\/circuit-5-11-ans\/theme-4\">https:\/\/www.santeestrie.qc.ca\/soins-services\/theme\/famille-parents-et-enfants\/ressources-pour-les-familles\/circuit-5-11-ans\/theme-4<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&nbsp;Maman pour la vie. (s.d.). <em>La discipline, c\u2019est plus que des punitions<\/em>.<br><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mamanpourlavie.com\/sante\/enfant\/developpement\/comportement-et-discipline\/6013-la-discipline-c-est-plus-que-des-punitions.thtm\">https:\/\/www.mamanpourlavie.com\/sante\/enfant\/developpement\/comportement-et-discipline\/6013-la-discipline-c-est-plus-que-des-punitions.thtm<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Na\u00eetre et grandir. 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